Making Up By Asking In The Right Way

Your ex has left you.  You want them back.  You have called them and apologized for whatever you did wrong that caused them to leave.  Now, how do you ask them to take you back? You can learn more about getting back together here.

A good first thing to realize is that each break up is different.  You can't make a blanket rule about what to say or do.  You have to feel it out with your ex.

What if you were too controlling or jealous.  You've apologized.  They seem like they are open to you once more.  What now?  If you push too hard, they will feel like you haven't changed much, won't they?

So you ask for a second chance.  You say something natural.  "Will you give me a second chance?"  That is simple and normal.  Where the skill comes in is realizing the ball is in their court now.  Let them have the ball and take the time they need to consider your request.

Understand that asking them to give you a second chance is a very big deal.  They left you because of some strong negative feelings over whatever happened.  This is an important issue.  (Go here for a complete course on Get Relationship Help)

Your ex has to take the time to feel the situation through.  Weigh the pros and cons.  They don't want to make a mistake and take you back only to start feeling bad again.

The wise thing to do is to let them have control of the reconnect.  Ask them to give you a second chance and feel the situation out.  If they seem unsure and seem to need time to think about it, don't be pushy.  Ask if you can check in with them tomorrow.  If they seem more willing, you can ask to come talk about it with them now.

The smart way to ask you ex to take you back is to let them have control of getting back together.  Your primary task is to apologize and ask.  Then let them have the space to control the reconnecting at their own pace.  You can get a complete system for how to get your ex back here.