Couples trouble signs

All is far in love and war.What can that saying really be saying?  Are they saying there is a similarity between the two?Now it isn't for sure that that is what they were trying to say, but there sure are a lot of things that are the same.

The things that are the same I guess are when the two turns from love into war.There may still be love between the couple but a lot of times they will act as if they are in a war.  I have seen this first hand doing couples therapy San Diego.A couple that used to be in love now is a couple in a constant fight.It is my main purpose is to be able to bring peace between the couple.And reclaim that long lost loving relationship.

So what are a few signs of trouble to look for?  One of the biggest warning signs is communication.Or should it be said lack of any communication.For all relationships, being able to communicate is critical.Since it is so important, if in your relationship you start to see that you are not being able to communicate it is a sign.  It is a warning sign of trouble.  Whether I am doing couples counseling or  marriage counseling in San Diego I see it all the time.Because in essence if the couple is not able to communicate, any little problem can turn into a big problem.Being able to properly communicate in a relationship helps to stop that.

So as a family counselor San Diego one of the biggest things I do is try to teach the couple how to communicate.  One of the biggest keys to communication is listening.Most people when they think of communicating think it is about talking.  But really if you don't listen well, you don't really understand each other.So by teaching the couple how to listen more effectively, the communication between them will improve greatly.

By recognizing this sign couples can know trouble may be brewing.  If a couple is able to recognize this in their relationship early they can avoid problems. From my experience the best way to solve problems in a relationship is to avoid them.But if you don't notice it early, the way to solve it best is to learn how to effectively communicate.  Sounds simple but it will have a major affect.