How to Overcome Jealousy

Nothing good comes of jealousy. It serves no useful purpose and can destroy the relationship it contaminates. If for some reason you lean in that direction you need to learn how to overcome jealousy before it's too late.

I've been looking into this problem quite a bit and I found good advice on web-pages like How to Overcome Jealousy. Here's some of what I've learned.

To begin, why do you think your jealous? What are your excuses? This will require honest self-examination.

Remember that you do have a choice. Being jealous is like other ways of being in the world - It's under our control. Some people may try to explain their jealousy by blaming external circumstances, but that's but that's not accurate. You are in control. An adult accepts responsibility for the choices they've made.

People choose jealousy for many reasons. A common one is insecurity.

Some people say that because they've been cheated on in the past means they have to be jealous now. But being jealous and accusatory and monitoring your partners every move will drive them away rather than bring them closer.

Some people use jealous demands as a way to control their partner. It's a power trip. it's not hard to imagine how this could easily threaten the relationship.

It is possible to make different choices. Just because we've behaved one way in the past doesn't mean we need to continue to do so. Approaching a partner with love and respect is much more likely to get a positive result.

Would you rather have someone who wanted to come home rather than someone who came home because of some sense of obligation? Someone who responds to their partner’s jealous demands eventually comes to resent. I think you can see how this creates the opposite of what jealous person desires.

Since intimate relationships are very complex and emotionally charged, it's not surprising we have difficulty with them. Part of the problem is that none of us are taught specifically how to deal with relationships as we grow up. Were left to our own devices and it shows.

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